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Enlightened Parenting I

by Judy A. Laslie

You are certainly not your body. Your body is simply your vehicle for this life. You choose to take on a body and come to the Earthplane to experience, learn, and grow. Help your children understand that they are spiritual beings having a physical experience. A physical body helps develop awareness faster at this level of consciousness by acting as a feedback mechanism. It gives symptoms and acts as a barometer to alert you when your thinking is out of line. Your body tells you when you experience disharmony, and if you have this long enough or intensely enough, your body manifests dis-ease.

Your body serves you well. You want to keep your body healthy by the nourishment (or fuel) you feed it. But what you feed your brain, receiver in the way of thoughts, which then manifest as either health or dis-ease in your body, is a million times more powerful than food you put in your mouth. The brain functions as a pharmacy in your body when you think a thought. The thought has to come first before you feel any emotion in your body.

Thoughts are electrically charged and they manifest in your body, and sometimes beyond -- if you are thinking thoughts beyond yourself, praying, or meditating. That point is so profound that I want to elaborate to be sure I communicate it clearly. Feeling good about yourself is the result of how you first think about yourself. Not just particular thoughts are manifested, but whatever you think, manifests in your body. Perceived negative thoughts about a person or situation are all processed and contained within yourself. For example, if you perceive a person or situation as a "pain in the neck", who gets the stiff neck?

If you (consciously or subconsciously) perceive that you have to bow to another person's authority or whatever you make your authority, you may start to carry stress in your knees and eventually develop physical symptoms in one or both knees. Sometimes symptoms occur very quickly, sometimes slowly. The onset of symptoms depends upon how intensely you program the thoughts to your receiver brain.

Germs and bacteria are in your environment all the time. Why aren't you and your children sick all the time? When you hold a thought that is not loving, you feel stress. Stress depresses your immune system and opens you to experiencing disease. I am not saying this is a bad thing. It just is. When you know how your thoughts manifest, you can change any negative, fearful, debilitating thoughts to positive, loving thoughts that allow healing to take place.

For example, the thought "I want to pick up my pencil" produces chemistry in your body instantly. You don't have to direct each muscle, tendon, neuron, proton to contract, elongate, and so on. You just think the thought and the chemistry immediately produced allows the complicated process to work easily.

If you believe someone cut you off in traffic and you choose to outrage yourself, what intense immediate chemistry might you produce? Certainly blood pressure can elevate substantially, heart rate increases, muscles tighten in the stomach, hands feel sweaty, etc. Your anger at someone else manifests in your body.

The thoughts "I don't want to see this room messy" or "I hate seeing my parents growing old" implies stress to eyes. "I don't want to hear arguing", "You're fired!", or an impressionable child being told "You never listen" can produce stress that manifests in ears. Clogging emotions can clog arteries. Perceived emotional hurts become physical hurts and pain. When children allow other people's remarks to "eat away" at them, because they took the remark personally, they usually have dis-eases that eat away at bones or tissues.

Insight for this column focuses on children who have no H, Q, or Z anywhere in their full birth name, the name on their original birth certificate. Do not consider a confirmation name for this purpose. If the name includes Jr. or II, spell it out as Junior and The Second. These children are here (on the Earthplane) to learn lessons dealing with money, material things, administrative skills, executive ability, financial achievement and success, and wielding power. They did not come into this life with good judgment regarding money matters and that is what they want to learn.

Security will be important to them. They won't want cheap gifts because they are starting to appreciate beautiful, meaningful, material things.

There are varying degrees of wielding power, so your child may not necessarily be destined to live in the White House or be President of General Motors to fulfill this destiny. A mother who keeps family members' schedules for lessons, the orthodontist, or scout meetings and still has clean socks and underwear available (most of the time) is demonstrating administrative skills.

If your family is affluent, your child may let money slip right through his/her fingers and feel the inconvenience of the loss of it. An entire inheritance might be spent with nothing to show for it and the child be back at the beginning in learning how to handle money. The child will learn that there must be a better way and (if parents don't rush in to rescue) out of the pain and inconvenience of loss will be the opportunity for growth.

Sometimes children in an affluent family think money is a burden because they feel inadequate in knowing how to invest and manage money in any competent way. They may feel overwhelmed by what they think is needed in financial expertise to maintain a particular lifestyle. They may even feel embarrassed by family wealth and ashamed to invite friends to their home because of what they think is excessive ostentation. This can work many ways.

If children are born into a less than affluent family, they may look around at all of the lovely material things and question how anyone ever accumulates enough money to have some of those wonderful things. A contrast of lifestyles between his/her own lifestyle and those of others may motivate a desire to achieve this lesson. A child who loves personal freedom, variety, and choices will also be motivated to learn.

Children missing H, Q, and Z could be helped by giving them an allowance when they are six or seven years old and insisting they allocate it. Call it a spending plan instead of a budget and they will be more likely to stick with it. (Budget sounds restrictive, punitive.) Some money is allocated to spend, some to save, possibly some for Sunday school, and other categories. Having a set amount of money and a plan to balance that against specific needs, takes all the hassle out of handling money.

When the child spends money from an allocation in the spending plan, help him/her to see it as an exchange. Also, bless the money as it goes out and see it leaving in order to make room for more money to enter. A law of physics states: A vacuum must first be created in order to fill it.

Teach your child that handling money does not mean hoarding it or pinching pennies. Children who do that usually suffer from constipation, and may not even perspire. You know that thoughts manifest in the body and the body functions as a feedback machine, but the mind does not distinguish that it is only money to be held. It will try to hang onto everything.

If your child wants to go to the store with a friend to buy something but doesn't have any more money, give him/her a big hug and say "Honey, on Tuesday you'll have your allowance again. You'll have a chance to decide again how you want to spend your money." Another option is to suggest earning additional money by cleaning bathroom sinks, emptying wastebaskets, or other appropriate jobs. But don't "bail them out"! If you just hand them money, they will need to be more and more creative in attracting situations in which they learn this lesson. A lenient support system actually prolongs the child's opportunity to learn. Giving extra money to a child who has not earned it is not being good to the child.

Children learning this lesson sometimes emerge from early years feeling a bit thwarted, frustrated, or as if they were just spinning their wheels. Usually parents think they are the ones to wield power. About all the child can do is have a lemonade stand, put on shows in the backyard and sell tickets, be treasure of a Cub Scout Pack, or get involved in student government in junior high or high school. Possibly the child will decide to live better materially as an adult than she/he did as a child.

Older children may want to study business, marketing, finance, and eventually want their own business. (Other people may see them as movers and shakers.) More and more they are developing the kind of minds that see commercial opportunities in daily living. You may find yourself engaged in power struggles with this young entrepreneur from time to time. Encourage business like dealings from an early age and just love and appreciate this precious person who chose you to be a help and guide for really such a few years. Your unconditional love for this child is your best investment.

Judy A. Laslie, author of 9 Chances to Feel Good About Yourself, B.S. in Education, does holistic speaking and holistic counseling based on numerology.